I’ve been studying the word audacity.
As I said in my last post,
Someone felt that it was a word in season for me.
I want to encourage you to explore this word and what it might mean for you at this time of your life
And in the various roles you play.
Audacity is simply a willingness to be daring,
I’m learning what it means to be an audacious mum.
And I can’t say I’m down with it yet.
I’m getting there, but it’s causing a huge stretch!
I wouldn’t describe my natural parenting style as audacious.
Far from it.
Rather, I’d describe my approach as peaceable, relaxed, non confrontational…
I’m back in school right now.
For me, it’s most definitely easier to shrink back,
Especially in the face of conflict.
My natural response,
As a melancholy/phlegmatic personality is to retreat.
It’s to ‘talk through’ the situation with my children,
Find a place of agreement,
Work it out with as little conflict as possible.
Often that means that I take the low road,
I don’t enjoy conflict remember.
But let me explain.
I live in a house with 3 A type personalities,
Two of which are my children (the other is my husband).
It makes for some fun times in our house.
I have no idea what the neighbours think of us.
My only consolation is that they still wave at us when they pull out of their driveways…
A type personalities,
Otherwise known as cholerics,
Are natural ‘bosses.’
They are used to dominating any situation,
Rather than having their situation dominate them.
But you see, this is the thing I’m learning.
It doesn’t matter what kind of personality you have.
In certain circumstances,
You have to supersede your natural bent and sway,
And operate out of a method that is sometimes unnatural to you.
It can potentially stretch you beyond every comfort zone you’ve known.
I have often found myself retreating instead of stepping up to the mark.
My natural inclination as a peacemaker,
Rather than have to confront the conflict head on with phrases like,
‘You’ll do this on my terms,’
‘I am the boss’,
‘You will do what you’re told when I say it.’
Rather than letting the strong will of those who I co habit with,
Overrule my authority.
Being audacious as a mum for me means facing conflict head on,
Sometimes slamming it with a sledgehammer.
A sledgehammer of wills,
An exercising of authority that is hardly gentle,
And totally the opposite of what I’d consider normally doing.
But for the sake of my children, my marriage, my sanity,
Being audacious is a requirement in this season of motherhood for me.
What about you?
What areas are you needing to become more audacious in?
Has your authority been overruled and stamped on?
Do you need to become more fearless, more brave, more bold in the choices you make as a mum?
I’ll be looking further into this idea of what it means to be audacious,
As a parent,
As a woman,
As a friend,
As a business person,
As a leader,
As a pastor,
As a writer,
As a musician,
Over the next few weeks.
I hope you can join me on that journey,
And I would love to hear your thoughts.